Who you are (it’s okay not to be okay)

So today is a bit of an experiment. I usually write when I am in a buoyant mood but today I have felt a bit low and thought in the spirit of authenticity, why not write? The ‘mood’ comes after an amazing weekend that was just so peaceful and relaxing where I had really jumped off the hamster wheel and taken the opportunity to just be.

As you can see idyllic right? Today though it was back to earth again and all the expectations -often self created- came flooding back about what I should be doing right now. I’ve managed to catch the mood as it is happening and not be too swayed by it. It is on days like this though that it is even more important for me to align to my purpose. It is also in these ‘low’ moments that doubts can creep in and the need to re-centre on my ‘why’ is essential . It was during this reflection the song by Jessie J popped into my head and these lines:

Don’t lose who you are

In the blur of the stars

Seeing is deceiving

Dreaming is believing

it’s okay not to be okay

Sometimes it’s hard

To follow your heart

Tears don’t mean you’re losing

Everybody’s bruising

Just be true to who you are

Jessie J – Who you are

I know I will wake up tomorrow and think ‘what was that all about?’ – I always do. I did not however want to brush the feeling off as this is part of me as much as the buoyant side of me is. We all have different moods throughout the day – and some of us are less adept at hiding them- this is why it is so important to be able to be yourself in your working environment and I wanted to share my ‘work’ me today.

Thanks for reading – I am working on a Compassionate Leadership Series that goes further into this space and if you are interested in finding more about being authentic and this work take a look here.

Above all though take care and be ‘who you are’.

Michelle

It’s Coming Home (and not just football)

In the closing stages of the Semi Final match of Euro 2020 against Denmark, England made a whopping 53 passes to each other unlocking their ‘inner Brazil’. I appreciate not everyone is a football fan like me (so I thought post a link to ‘Pass Masters’ Euro 2020: England’s excellent game management as they close out Denmark win with 53-pass exhibition – BBC Sport for those who are). Even if you are not a football fan though, you can perhaps appreciate this is pretty amazing and … you may have heard of Gareth Southgate.

Everyone who I speak to (fans or not) seem to really like this football team and Gareth especially. Gareth missed a crucial penalty in Euro 1996 (something he gets reminded of all the time) but rather than crush him – which I am sure it did back then – he says that it has now helped him become a better Manager. It was not until I read this guardian article How England players went from being targets of boo boys to likable lads | England | The Guardian that I started to realise there is something about being in the compassionate leadership space that appears to drive not only the fan’s mentality -who get behind the team- but connectedness within the team which appears to be driving performance. Are we onto something here I wonder?

So what is the ingredient? Again referencing the Guardian article – these footballers are not just sports people they are campaigners for good. Ok they have their rogue moments (who doesn’t?) but recently we have Rashford’s MBE for the guarantee one meal a day for school children, the teams’ proactive stance against racism and engagement in LGBTQ+ issues as examples. Gareth has shown such leadership in getting this team to express emotion which helps reduce stigma around mental health. They are people voicing their opinions and advocates of positive change. I have long believed an open and connected team leads to better performance. Selfishly perhaps, I am driven by wanting my four year old son to grow up with ‘icons’ who understand the value of purpose. When he is old enough to work what mother, aunt, uncle, father etc…would not want a child to find a supportive environment they would need to thrive when they grow up?

So imagine how honoured I was to be invited by Garry Turner -the epitome of compassion- to take part in a linkedin live alongside some other really powerful voices in this space – Toni McLelland, Mike Vacanti and David St Martin. We will be discussing the Guardian article further and what it could mean for compassionate leadership and its relationship to organisational effectiveness. It is something this group has researched heavily so it is bound to be insightful.

Wednesday 14th July 2021 13:00 BST log into to Linkedin and click to get a reminder
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Whatever the result of the match itself, I do hope you will join us and see what lessons can be learnt wider than football. Fingers crossed for Sunday though!

Take care

Michelle

Shallow (Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga )

As I continue on a self- discovery mission, I have taken a moment to think about how much braver I have been recently in terms of reaching out to discover new networks in the human space; speaking out about things that trouble me and also the recent work I have committed to- particularly the last year- in order to help organisations thrive through compassion for their people.

Sometimes though I can get really wrapped up in what I am doing, that I forget the importance of looking inside to keep a check on what I am doing it for.   This week I bid for some work and I thought to myself: how do I ensure that every piece of work I undertake aligns with my purpose?  It was a question that has haunted me since someone in my network expressed frustration at how many people had disingenuously cashed in on the wellbeing agenda. My colleague felt that- rather than really seeing the vulnerability of those affected- she saw how some organisations had just seen it as an opportunity to exploit the space – especially when she knew that these workplaces did not practice what they preached. That made me sad. I reflected and there and then committed that I never want to put myself at risk of that loss of integrity. In the bid I was writing – and every bid that will follow- I promised myself to include a line that includes my aims and that I would not engage in work that does not meet my ethical principles. I can’t stop people who want to fake authenticity, that is beyond my control but I genuinely do want to achieve some greater good. I would not work in public service otherwise.

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At this point I was reminded of the film ‘ A star is born’ when Bradley Cooper sings to Lady Gaga:


Tell me somethin’, girl
Are you happy in this modern world?
Or do you need more?
Is there somethin’ else you’re searchin’ for?

Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga ‘Shallow’

Since having my son who is now 4, I have been thinking so much about how I can protect him from the world he’ll grow up in and the issues like the one above.  I know that I can’t and all I can do is tell him to be really clear about his purpose and not deviate from it whatever that is. I know I worked very hard in my earlier years working on things that in the grand scheme of things weren’t important and provided me with no satisfaction. I was trying to replace the things that were missing in my life (and sometimes missed living it) to often fulfil other egos. Without purpose it was just drifting.  I hope if that happens to my son i’d have the wisdom of Lady Gaga to say:

Tell me something, boy
Aren’t you tired tryna fill that void?
Or do you need more?
Ain’t it hard keepin’ it so hardcore

Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga ‘Shallow’

So I may not have done it in my earlier years but now when it comes to my purpose – it is all or nothing:

I’m off the deep end, watch as I dive in
I’ll never meet the ground
Crash through the surface where they can’t hurt us
We’re far from the shallow now

In the sha-ha, sha-hallow
In the sha-ha, sha-la-la-la-low
In the sha-ha, sha-hallow
We’re far from the shallow now

Bradley Cooper and Lady Gaga ‘Shallow’

Shine bright like a diamond (We’re beautiful like diamonds in the sky)

My exploration of humanity continues and I was just sitting looking at my engagement ring this morning (which I rarely wear as I tend to just wear my wedding ring). I have owned it for nearly 10 years and I was watching the light shimmer off the diamonds within it.  I never tire of it and it made me think about how we are all like diamonds in that we are multi-faceted, we shine and we draw others in and attract attention when we show our inner beauty.

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As humans, we all have choices and we can go through some really dark times and I am no exception to that,  but then I think there are also so many wonderful things, people and experiences I have shared moments with… and we can all continue to have those in this lifetime if we allow ourselves.  I think of the lines in Rihanna’s beautiful song (which incidentally played when I took a trip over the Grand Canyon in a helicopter ride for my honeymoon):

‘Shine bright like a diamond, Find light in the beautiful sea
I choose to be happy’

Rihanna ‘Diamonds’

Then I think about the wonderful connections that I have made not only in my personal and spiritual life but also more recently my work-life especially through the HumansFirst network, and other connections linked to that and beyond.  Also I read the posts that my network write and I really feel the human-centredness and the energy and positivity it brings. I am definitely in the right crowd… A bit more Rihanna.

‘At first sight I felt the energy of sun rays
I saw the life inside your eyes’

Rihanna ‘Diamonds’

So my call to action today is ‘shine bright like a diamond’ – don’t let anyone fade your light and find connections that bring out the best of your inner beauty.  Don’t hide it – it is more important than you know.

Let’s get loud

Let’s get Loud. Let’s get Loud

Ain’t nobody gotta tell ya

What you gonna do

If you wanna live your life

Live it all the way and don’t you waste it

Every feeling, every beat

Jennifer Lopez

The best quote i’ve read in recent times in relation to leadership strategy came from Mike Vacanti, Founder of Humans First (and a really insightful author). His message on linkedin was simple ‘stop promoting assholes’. At first it made me chuckle as it was really blunt… but it did get me thinking- what happened to some people in their learning that made them behave so badly – even appallingly in workplaces and then what happened in our societal learning that made that not only an acceptable norm but a promotional criteria? Find me a management structure that does not have that aspect in it. Look at how many look the other way- especially if it is in really senior positions. Then find me a number of people impacted by it -often psychologically. Ask yourself, why is that acceptable? I am lucky I am in a supportive team but that does not mean I should close my eyes to what is happening in the wider business space.

My guilty pleasures during LNB (lockdown netflix binge) at the moment are Cobra Kai and House of Cards. The commonality in both is how early influences good or bad can set the moral compass. Ok it’s fiction (and in Cobra Kai- cheesy at that) but both demonstrate the power of ego especially ego out of control and the destruction is causes. I’ve lost count how many times the reaction to me calling out poor behaviour has led to me branded sensitive- to the extent it damaged me. I may be sensitive but it does not mean the other person isn’t behaving like an asshole right? Luckily I bounce back but I am lucky. The behaviour though that caused the pain was allowed to happen…and I still remember it.

Then I thought can people be rehabilated? My answer to that currently is only if they want to. That takes courage and looking inside yourself. The more important question though is why would they want to? What is the prize/incentive? Would it affect their promotional opportunities if they showed a softer side? Wider society still does not call out the behaviour strongly enough and is addicted to ‘macho’ in all genders. When considering promotional opportunities embedding kindness as an integral need for leadership is still way down the criteria.

But as JLo sang if ‘You’re not hurtin’ anyone, Nobody loses’. Personally i’d rather sleep at night.

So let’s get loud about what is not right in our working environments and keep egos in check by not promoting those that don’t deserve it.

We mustn’t be silent on things that matter. That is my constant reference point. It is not an easy journey but compromising on what is important always leads to suffering somewhere for someone.

Chevalier de Saint – Georges

By Martin Trotman

Hey everyone, I would like to share something with you today. I have an extensive music education background having studied piano and composition at the Birmingham Conservatoire which is essentially a classical institution. Later I went on to lecture and teach at a number of music institutions including South Birmingham College and University of Central England, currently MD at St Johns & St Peters Church, Ladywood. I mention this only to make the point that of all the years spent in music education, sitting in lectures, seminars, recital halls and exams, I’ve never once heard the name Chevalier de Saint – Georges, mentioned! Hopefully I have your attention! Introducing Chevalier de Saint – Georges.

He was a champion fencer, military officer, composer, virtuoso violinist and conductor of a leading Paris symphony of the time. He was also black. I have listened to this man’s music and it’s breathtaking. Unfortunately, a lot of Chevalier’s music was lost during the French Revolution, and what survived was quickly forgotten. However, what we do know is that he composed 3 sets of string quartets, 2 symphonies, 8 symphonie-concertantes, 6 operas, 3 violin sonatas and 14 violin concertos. It is said, Mozart was extremely jealous of Chevalier. The comparison between the two composers is off, says director of music at Shakespeare’s Globe, Bill Barclay “Chevalier was unfairly called the ‘Black Mozart,’ it should have been Mozart the ‘White Chevalier’. I invite you to take a listen to this man’s amazing music! I believe this wonderful music should be included in our music curriculum studies from grass roots to university level. Music was created to be heard not hidden! Thank you for your time. Hit the link below. Enjoy! Black composer series vol 1 Chevalier de Saint – Georges :

Martin Trotman has released an album called ‘Let’s begin’ which can be heard here: https://www.last.fm/music/Martin+Trotman/Let%27s+Begin

‘One Love’ (one life)

It has taken me a while to write on the subject of #blacklivesmatter and the tragic death of George Floyd. I am not going to lie – I went through a rollercoaster of emotions and anxiety about what was the ‘right’ thing to say and do. I was appalled for sure- after all I am a white person who could not relate to what or why that happened- but I absolutely felt pain. I wanted to do ‘something’ but I did not have any lived experience to speak of and whilst i’d been on a journey for some time to try and ‘discover’ what I needed to know – that was a very different world from talking publicly about it. Why that incident – more than any other – affected me to take action I will never know. I am 43, I have known racism has existed for as long as I can remember. It did, however seem to bring about a marked shift at the same time to a lot of people in my position. I can only say the world had simply had enough – and for being so late to the table – I can only apologise profoundly but I have a duty now to keep up the momentum.

I moved however quickly from what can I ‘say’ to what I can do. I called out people who I had regarded as ‘friends’ because their views I found out were different from mine; I became much more vocal about things at work (even for me!) and the more I did this – the braver I became. I am lucky I have some amazing work colleagues who are happy to support and tolerate me learning. One of them said ‘ be brave, not perfect’ and that has stuck with me.

Then I was reminded by one of my favourite songs by U2 ‘One’ (well I prefer the Mary J Blige version) and these words:

One love
One blood
One life
You got to do what you should

‘One’ U2/Mary J Blige

So, I have a question – if you have children, nieces, nephews, friends with children etc…what world do you want them to grow up in?

I now have an ask – if you want the world to look different – what role will you play?

Vivian Acquah has put together an amazing summit and I am joining her with over 60 speakers to help change the world one voice at a time – I want to be able to say to my son that I did this for his generation and she has the same message. Please click the below and show your support by sharing #amplifyDEI; either liking, retweeting or sharing on your social networks and do think about hearing from some amazing international speakers about equality, diversity and inclusion and what role you can play to bring about one love:

https://bit.ly/334P0Io

yours,

Michelle

Freedom (I won’t let you down)

So I have a confession-  no new ideas…nothing new… as I have been in a much more reflective space where I have been valuing other people’s voices rather than my own.  Shock! I hear you cry-  but I have been writing a research paper recently and suddenly a lot of things are making much more sense than before. When I first started thinking about why I decided to go part freelance last year,  I realised that some of it was about needing to have a wider voice.  I really related to Perry Timms Article when I read it recently about commitment to specialisms rather than job titles #belonging. I’ve heard — and used — this word a few… | by Perry Timms | Jul, 2020 and being connected to a purpose.

Then I reflected and thought that in order to give more…I really needed to listen more and build trust through that connection.

So this essentially became the subject of a research paper I compiled with Garry Turner and Mike Vacanti – some really really amazing connections who write some amazing stuff (look them up – tip one).  It has been a wild journey where I sometimes (being honest) felt challenged by other people’s perceptions.  I read ‘The Memo’  by Minda Harts and it took a lot of courage to lean into that discussion and understand that perspective on diversity and inclusion and I am so glad I did (tip two- read it).

So I’ve talked to and read some work by some really amazing people and thought finally ‘I get it’ . What if voices within organisations were better heard?  Would all these wonderfully talented people who go it alone, have done so if their organisations had listened more?  You know..having leaders who demonstrate that ‘vulnerability’ in their decision making (useful stuff that Mike Vacanti talks about) or being treated as human beings rather than doings that we have learnt from the works of Mark LeBusque. I wonder if some of this writing came from their own sources of frustration when they were part of the organisation machine.  I quote these powerful lyrics and liken it to our need for expression:

                     ‘Gotta have some faith in the sound

                     It’s the one good thing that I’ve got

George Michael, Freedom ’90

Experience often drives our purpose and as some of you will see in my recent interviews I am really interested in the compassionate and active listening skills that Dr Amy Bradley talked to me about in our interview https://hresque.co.uk/interviews and how belonging and connectedness strengthened her commitment to her organisation because her voice was being heard. Finally I had the most amazing conversation with Nilofer Merchant who really helped me understand how language and inclusivity plays a role and how many voices aren’t heard (tip three- Nilofer Merchant’s @work project is amazing and so generous in sharing ideas subscribe). What is needed is a push for that real call to action to change that.

So the research I did was not new but was essentially a ‘mash up’ of all of this wonderful work but how I feel I can contribute is to bring all this meaningful stuff together and ensure it is not wasted.

So the key learning for me? …. I want to hear the voices in my organisation that are not heard – I figure they may be actually more interesting and insightful. They may bring a new perspective; a new idea or a way forward that I had not thought of. That is the challenge I bring to you today.

Want to add to my ‘mash up’ – ( tip four : have a look on my website https://hresque.co.uk to see how you can contribute as I believe it takes collaborativeness, kindness and belonging to make our organisations better.

‘Walk on, Walk on’ (You’ll never walk alone)

The ‘Who am I?’ series is all about trust, because I believe it’s not one-sided and building a resilient team at work is as much about how we treat others as it is about how we behave ourselves: the old proverb, ‘treat others how you’d like to be treated’ springs to mind. This sounds common sense, but part of being able to do this is to bring to work our authentic selves and to be able to say, ‘ this is how I am feeling right now’ and for that to be okay.  I love where I work at the moment, because my team demonstrate they care every single day about each other and that makes it such a great place to work. I think I have a rare and beautiful thing as in my 20 or so years at work , it is the first time I have found that sense of belonging across a whole team rather than a few people-centric individuals. I don’t think it is down to leadership that this has happened either (although that is important component) , it is more about a colleague camaraderie or a unified language where we all feel like we are in it together and can be open and honest.

Chapter 3 : Who am I? – the trusting series

I have a great book to review today which encapsulates the essence of this togetherness much more beautifully than I ever could. I will go on to talk about Dr Amy Bradley’s The Human Moment in a minute, but those that follow me will know I always have a song that I reference in my blogs.  I was lost when trying to think of a song that resonated with this chapter.  So true to the theme, I opened up to a trusted friend who used to be my Manager who has helped me through some really difficult times. She said instantly ‘oh that’s easy: you’ll never walk alone.’ 

I can’t think of a more pertinent song for right now, as we need to feel a sense of belonging more than ever since the onset of this pandemic.  The optimist in me feels something good must come out of something so profoundly life changing. The opportunity to capture the learning is immense and we need to grab it with both hands.  So, onto Dr Amy Bradley’s book which I think provides some answers about the future of work and great food for thought.  The consistent theme of the book is around compassionate leadership and Dr Amy comes from a place of raw experience following a bereavement.  She writes about how a ‘human moment’ -a letter from her manager at the time of a personal tragedy she experienced meant everything to her and how she went on to turn a desperately difficult life experience into a vocation through researching personal trauma and professional growth.

Amy’s book is so fitting for today as she states ‘never have we needed our colleagues so much, yet never have we felt so isolated with one in six of us feeling we have no one to talk to at work about the things that worry us’.  Despite the wonderful technology that we have been able to master to connect us during this tough time (and it is truly phenomenal the advances) it hasn’t and can’t replace real human connection.  I think this pandemic has taught us how much we have all missed being able to feel that sense of connectedness as community comes in so many forms and it is not just visual.

How much did we take that for granted in the busyness that preceded the onset of this virus? We mustn’t do that again!

The book also demonstrates some really powerful illustrations of doing things well but also when both managers and colleagues really got it wrong.  It struck a chord with me as I experienced a bereavement of a close family member a very long time ago, but I still remember how it felt when no one had been told in the office that he had died and a colleague asked me how he was. I really felt for her at that moment because she wasn’t to know but I was so angry. I’d not been in the office for three weeks – busyness had overtaken human compassion, and no one thought to mention it before I returned… I never really forgot it.  However looking back I can see it with a more objective lens that it was not really anyone’s fault,  it was the human condition of how we have come to associate at work as ‘professionals’ – that was at fault, where compassion can be very much secondary.  As Dr Amy points out compassionate behaviour’ comes from a place of readiness’ and some people have just become not available to listen, too busy etc, not realising that it is that behaviour …i.e.… the ability to not hear and respond to the pain –that can change how we perceive work in a long-standing way.  As Dr Amy describes it is a ‘sliding doors’ moment.  You’ll never get that moment back.

So following COVID19 why don’t we invest more at work in the importance of empathy and compassion and hearing the true voices in our organisations rather than what we often want to hear –i.e. that which feels most comfortable?

 I believe people in the main are well intentioned,  most people want structure when they fall on hard times and will strive hard to seek normality when nothing around them feels normal and they can feel themselves losing their grip.  I also know that others can see that pain is there but also that determination that people want to get past it. Often however we have lost the ability to find the right words to say or actually to just listen and support. This is true of both colleagues and managers alike:

Cue the lines from Gerry and the Pacemakers:

‘Walk on through the wind

Walk on through the rain

Though your dreams be tossed and blown

Walk on, walk on

With hope in your heart

And you’ll never walk alone’

I feel our colleagues shouldn’t walk alone but know they have our support. Personal trauma and breakdowns can lead to absolute breakthroughs, or suffering as- Dr Amy describes- can actually lead to ‘greater self- insight’.  People who have been through really tough times often become more ‘in tune with themselves ‘ to use Dr Amy’s words so, rather than something to be feared, they are often the very people who have come to  realise what is important in life and these are wonderful gifts for an organisation to tap into.

So, what does this mean for organisational culture? Well there are some great takeaways at the end of Dr Amy’s book (8 lessons in total) that organisations can do to demonstrate compassionate leadership. This in turn should drive and embed a supportive culture. What’s great is they are simple things and therefore not difficult things to do.  I encourage and highly recommend that you read the book and put into practice its teachings. By adopting these practices, it is argued compellingly that we can get better loyalty and engagement through making our people in our organisations feel they don’t need to be:

‘afraid of the dark’ and see that ‘at the end of the storm there’s a golden sky,’. Words from Gerry and the Pacemakers but something Dr Amy has experienced herself through finding her purpose.

It would also be really remiss of me not to mention two other colleagues who have also inspired me this week with their energy for the human cause – Mike Vacanti, Garry Turner and I had a really insightful conversation about their #humansfirst journey which I am sure they will correct me on to say ‘our ‘ humans first journey. They too are definitely wonderfully compassionate colleagues also looking to bring out the best’ self’ in others.  Do look at this work too it is really ground-breaking and a powerful network to be part of.

 So, who am I? you may ask? I have discovered I am a work colleague, but also a friend who can be called on any time.

Hope this helps someone today.

Yours,

Michelle

People hold on (don’t do yourself wrong)

The current lockdown has taken me back to the 1990’s I can’t remember which year, (1997 maybe?). I’d be about 20, I was at university and I had discovered the clubbing scene.  It was a place that time had forgotten, until the birth of virtual parties online satisfying the extroversion I thrive on here in 2020.  Like many of you, finding meaning has been difficult during this time and to fill the void of being around people, I’ve been listening to a virtual DJ and thinking back to 1997 where I would have been spellbound by the flashing lights and crowds of people in a dingy dark building somewhere, naïve but happy feeling a sense of belonging relating to a ‘tune.  Fast forward to 2020 and I am dancing in the living room (a wife and a mother) sipping cranberry juice – no longer vodka- and feeling in my twenties.  Tip number one google word of mouth (Stuart Ojelay) if you need some ‘Ibiza’.

Stuart has been playing a universally epic tune from that era mixing Tori Amos ‘Professional Widow’ and Lisa Stansfield ‘People Hold On.’ I started thinking about the lyrics and our response to the current crisis organisationally both now and beyond COVID. In particular the lines:

                ‘Givin’ into life, givin’ into love

                Maybe there’s enough for everyone

                Givin’ into hope, givin into trust

                Maybe there’s enough for everyone.’

Lisa Stansfield ‘People Hold On’

I’ve also been reading a wonderful book by Mike Vacanti ‘Believership the Superpower Beyond Leadership’. Mike is a really humble guy who is achieving great things. I feel like I have known him my entire life and importantly that connection comes in part from the fact he shares the view I have (and others) that vulnerability is the key to leadership.  I am lucky to have him in my network and his book poses many questions for me about wondering how businesses are responding to our crisis and what their forward plan might look like – has it been command and control or have leaders avoided some of its traps ? Have default behaviours risen to respond to crisis( both reacting to or feeling the effects of?).

Some of these ponderings/fears Mike sums up wonderfully in his book:

‘In pursuit of control and mechanization of human behaviour , we’ve restricted our capacity to meet today’s significant challenges.  Yet this is at a time when we need to expand our human capacity. Creativity and ingenuity. What I have experienced and learned to be true is, given the opportunity people will amaze us’

I’ve been fortunate to remain in work through this time and in a team responding to the internal wellbeing issues related to COVID 19. Not front-line but nonetheless a challenging and creative time for the team who have been given freedom to respond to work towards what ultimately matters- the people we work with and supporting them to be able to help our community.

I think we have done some great things. However I know I can do more and I will take a beautiful excerpt from chapter 8 of this book to demonstrate how.  Entitled ‘Lift Others’, Mike reveals that he starts each day with a ‘morning meditation focused on two words: ‘lift others [and he ends] each day with a reflection: is it better?’.  In my self-absorbed moments I am sure this will help to ensure that I remember the purpose and help others to achieve theirs. We all want the same thing.

So back to the song

‘so who’s gonna give us the answer? Sister and brother!’

Lisa Stansfield ‘People Hold On’

My clubbing days may be drawing to a close as I hobble around my living room today from too much exuberance but I think both the book and the song have really reenergised my weekend and when I return next week I want to share that positive energy, despite the challenges we face.

Thank you Tori Amos, Lisa Stansfield and Mike Vacanti and ‘People…. hold on.’ Avoid the traps, practice self care and above all be kind to one another. This too shall pass.

An interview with Mike Vacanti can be found at https://hresque.co.uk.

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